The holidays are such an important time of year. It’s a time for love, laughter, and family. So many people are unfortunate in that they don’t have a family, and I know the holidays can be tough. I’m so thankful to be married and have to “worry” about whose house we’ll be going to for each holiday.
Before Mathew and I got married, we took an engagement “counseling” type course for Christian couples. We talked about roles and responsibilities, finances, and of course, thought-provoking questions like how you’ll divide your time for the holidays.
Last year was a fluke. I had Thanksgiving with my family because it was going to be my last holiday with my family as an un-married woman. Mathew and I had decided that for our first year of marriage, we’d spend Christmas just the two of us, and then start the New Year fresh and divide our time then.
That didn’t quite work out.
Mathew’s mom was so sad that we didn’t want to spend Christmas with them that we ended up going over, and did Skype with my family. It wasn’t what we expected, but we dealt with it.
This year, it’s different.
The plan: Mathew and I will be spending Thanksgiving with his family and we’ll alternate and spend Christmas with my family. Then next year we’ll swap and do Thanksgiving with my family, and then Christmas with his. This plan works for us, and ultimately isn’t best for everyone, but it’s best for us. It definitely may be tough on our families, but we can’t please everyone and we refuse to travel incredibly far to accommodate everyone for every single holiday. We like this plan and we’re sticking to it.
So my question to you is…how do you do the holidays with your spouse or significant other? Do you swap like we do, or do you do something entirely different?