My life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. If you read my Twitter, you know that to be true. I’m selective about what I post online, however, just because 1) I hate drama, 2) I have family that reads my blog (and what’s personal is personal), and 3) I’m a firm believer in the fact that my blog is a BLOG and not a DIARY. There’s a major difference in that.

At Blissdom, Lisa Leonard spoke about how all stories have some kind of “conflict” in them. Trust me, my story has MANY, but I’m not sure if I’m ready to delve into them because of the fact that it’s incredibly personal and to be honest, pretty controversial.
I want to get more comfortable about the conflicts in my life (and our marriage), so for now, I’ve decided I’m comfortable with giving you a few small personal things…
my pet peeves.
I can’t stand…
– people who smack their food. It drives me CRAZY.
-when people put their feet on my coffee table. It has ottomans underneath for a reason!
– slow drivers when I’m already late. MOVE!
– when little kids ask me to tie their shoes. No I do NOT want to touch your shoelaces that have probably touched the dirty bathroom floor.
– that Netflix isn’t up to date on current seasons. When I finish the show, I want to be able to see the episodes that are going on right now.
– people that are rude to me or my husband…cuz then I’ll hold a grudge for a LONG time.

– when I take my dog out to go potty, stay outside for several minutes, take her inside, and NOW she decides she also has to poop. Not cool Pearl, not cool.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with not divulging too much information. I mean, some things are private. I hate when people bitch about blogs not being “real” and sharing “real” stuff. Sometimes the “real” stuff is way too personal to put on the net forever. By doing that, it isn’t portraying a false reality. There’s stuff in my life that I wouldn’t dare share with the majority of my friends, let alone the web. I try to watch what I share. About two years ago, I wrote a post that was “vague,” yet someone drew assumptions about it. Then it caused MAJOR drama with my mom. I mean MAJOR. No one needs added stress.
Pet peeves: When people are late at all (especially when it is their own event!), when people don’t do something they say they will, people who ignore numerous texts/messages, people who comment on me being a picky eater and pushing the issue… There’s so many. I can’t think of anymore at the moment, but I have plenty. Haha!
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Lol, I totally had a draft about my pet peeves, now you’re inspiring me to finish it. I am so with you on the shoelace tying, and I probably should tie shoelaces since I’m a kindergarten teacher… but I just think of all the germs and get grossed out. So I make them find a student to help them – gives the kids practice in working together, asking for help, etc. 🙂 That’s my excuse anyway!
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LOVING your “people that are rude to me or my husband…cuz then I’ll hold a grudge for a LONG time” pet peeve… mostly because I know exactly who that’s about. Ha!
I struggle with this whole “conflict” thing too. I’ve shared about my diagnosis w/ MS and even some of the struggles along the way but that is ok b/c it is my thing. There are other things I would like to share but it includes other people so that is where it gets a bit tricky. If my family didn’t read it would be easier sometimes! Lol!
I would like to go a bit deeper on my blog – but I need to find time to write. Most of the time I’m doing posts on the fly. To really write I need time to sit and think and do it. That just isn’t happening right now. I look forward to reading whatever your feel ok w/ sharing!
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Food smacking drives me UP A WALL. And don’t even get me started about people that cut their nails at work. Blech.
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Pet peeve posts are the best! My biggest pet peeve is people who cough or sneeze without covering their mouths. I swear I can feel myself getting sick when they do that!
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I think it’s nice for people to talk about what really goes on in their lives, but to keep a marriage (and some other things) sacred, I think there are some things that are better left off the blog, ya know? Also, I know a lot of times in the heat of the moment there is a LOT of things I would say about certain situations, but then later after I cool off my mind changes.. or at least is more clear. I think if I went to the blog every time I would be a little embarrassed to know who read some of those things! So no, you’re not alone 😉
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I was just about to say what Kate said about people cutting their nails at work. Drives me batty! Like I want to stab someone with a pencil. Can’t they just do that at home, isn’t that what home is for.
Like you slow drivers, but people driving slow in the carpool lane. It’s an unwritten rule, you go fast, fast, fast in the carpool lane, that’s why you’re in it =) I think that comes from driving 100 miles round trip to and from work everyday…want to get home as fast as possible!
I am with you on the slow drivers and repeat doggie breaks pet peeves. And I agree that there’s a distinct difference between a blog and a diary. I’m pretty selective about what I share on my blog, especially when it comes to personal matters with family.
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I agree– I don’t blog about a lot of things because I know my family and some of my co-workers read my blog. And yes– Netflix definitely needs current episodes! A lot of them are free on hulu, but not many…
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Ugh! my biggest pet peeve right now is when people want to tell me all about gastric bypass. I want to say to them I spent over a year researching and now I am nearly two years out and have lost over 100 lbs. with no side effects….I think I got this people! Sometimes we need to remind ourselves to be supportive without giving an opinion.
My pet peeves are ridiculous. I think number one is when the toilet paper is rolling under instead of over.
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Oh my gosh, this is me too!!
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I can’t STAND it when people put their shoes on furniture. I also hate it when people put anything besides their heads on pillows, be it couch or bed. I just think it’s gross.
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Your pet peeves made me laugh. Some of them I totally related with. Others … tying a child’s shoes for instance … were just funny!
As for over sharing … I guess I’m prone to it. Maybe it’s partly an age thing. (I’m 54 and have been married for 33 years.) My blog isn’t a diary as you put it but it is a journal and my purpose is to share that there is grace and hope even in the middle of the fiercest storm. I can’t do that without admitting that it’s raining! I have blogged about pain on a variety of fronts that make a lot of people tell me that they would never be brave enough to say that but they’re glad I did. To me … it doesn’t feel BRAVE … just honest. This is my life and it’s a mess right now but I still believe that God has good plans for my life and my family!
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I’m actually getting my Masters in conflict management and it has been really eye opening for me! There are so many things in life that I always thought were better to just ‘let go’ and now I’m learning how to positively confront things and I feel like it’s really making a difference 🙂
In other news, people who chew with an open mouth or smack their food also drive me insane.
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I too struggle with how much to reveal on my blog. There are some things that are personal that I may not want to share, but then there are other things I will share. I think that is the best thing about it being your blog…you choose what you want to say and talk about. I have many pet peeves…but the slow drivers is a huge one for me, and people who talk behind your back. I’m all about being honest, I know not everyone is going to like me, and I honestly don’t care, but if you talk about my behind my back, I lose all respect!
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My Dog Baxter does the same thing Pearl does.
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It makes me uncomfortable when some people over share… I appreciate you keeping a veil over your personal life. It’s refreshing!
As for pet peeves: put the lid down on the toilet when flushing if it has one (not just the seat, the lid) and inconsiderate, oblivious or non-detail-oriented people. I think the latter covers a lot of pet peeves for me!
ahhh, I hate slow drivers too! even if I’m not late, haha.
Netflix annoys me. And then they have “new releases” that are movies 3-4 years old. Not cool.
I hate taking Binky out and he sniffs around for 5 hours (exaggerating) before he goes somewhere. I mean, just pee dude.
I don’t blame you for not wanting to share everything! xoxo
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Nope, not at all I’m always conscious of the fact that my life isn’t just my life, it is my family and friends life too and what I put out there about myself affects them. You are who you surround yourself with, right? So if they are choosing to surround themselves with me I want to make sure they are proud of that. With that being said, I do have a few life stories that I know benefit others for me to share and right now I am trying to find the best way to do so. Maybe I never will. I also don’t find this privacy thing too difficult right now, but I know it will be more difficult if I ever get married, move in with a significant other, and/or have a kid. They’d be such a major part of my life, but might not want their life shared. And a kid really has no say for a long time. I think you’re walking the line really nicely 🙂
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